Stress is neither right or wrong, it is a response. It is how our bodies and minds react to challenges. Just as perceptions and opinions shape narratives, they also shape our responses to stress. Managing stress begins with changing our perceptions of stress.
If we consider stress a negative and try to avoid it whenever possible, it will consume us. Just as when we lie in bed trying not to think about insomnia, it will be all we think about. We know this feeling, whenever we try to get over an ex, is when we have the hardest time. In A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle put it so eloquently when he wrote:
“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.”With internal responses, it's sometimes best to let it take its course.