Tuesday, December 10, 2013
You've heard enough about the habits of smart and successful people. What about the other side of the spectrum, the habits of miserable people? How do I hone my misery skills?
(Modified from the original article: Psychotherapy Networker Magazine)
When you’re miserable, people feel sorry for you. Not only that, they often feel obscurely guilty, as if your misery might somehow be their fault. This is good! There’s power in making other people feel guilty.
When you’re miserable, since you have no hopes and expect nothing good to happen, you can’t be disappointed or disillusioned.
Being miserable can give the impression that you’re a wise and worldly person, especially if you’re miserable not just about your life, but about society in general. You can project an aura of someone burdened by a form of profound, tragic, existential knowledge that happy, shallow people can’t possibly appreciate.
Monday, December 9, 2013
Education as a key to overall happiness
This kid has the right mindset. I give a similar talk to new clients about how they should view fitness, not as something to make you look a certain way, but as a part of overall happiness.
The other portion he talks about is hacking, a term I use frequently. What does hacking have to do with life? Everything. To quote Logan, "hacking is a mindset."
After so many poor recent TEDx talks, this is a great one.
Saturday, December 7, 2013
Friday, December 6, 2013
Thursday, December 5, 2013
To Fitness Professionals:
The same reason a coach can create powerful results in people, is the same reason others will avoid everything about this person.
Fitness people who want to create powerful change, can't be everyone's friend. You can't take it personally. It's not about you, you represent responsibility and promises people made to themselves.
You'll always be that constant reminder if you did your job right. Your existence will be that reminder. Many will thank you, some won't.
One of the things I've been telling people for a while now is, following your passion is just plain poor lazy advice. Mike Rowe of Dirty Jobs explains in this Ted Talk.
Wednesday, December 4, 2013
|Only you can do this for yourself|
Can you please do it for me?
I get asked variations of this all the time. How long would it take to lose 5lbs, 10lbs, 20lbs? What can I lose in 2 weeks? I got a thing coming up in a month, can I lose (fill in the blank) by then?
My answer: I don't know.
People have convinced you that other people can do it for you. The reality is whatever you want to do, you are the one who has to accomplish it.
There's a tree standing in front of you. All that you want is on the other side of that tree. But you are the lumberjack not me. Only you know how often, how hard, how dedicated, how committed you are to swinging that axe. Only you will know if you'll pick up that axe at all.
My single job is to sharpen that axe, teach you how to swing it, and encourage you. Then I must pass the axe back to you. That's it. And that's all I am trying to perfect. It's why I'm so good at what I do, I don't lie to you or myself and pretend to do anything else. So I perfect the art of sharpening the axe and teaching swing techniques.