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My Jiu Jitsu instructor Rubens Charles "Cobrinha" Maciel explained to me, to be a good martial artist, figure out what's bothering you, then figure out a good way to prevent it or stop it.
Me: I can't submit this guy because he's grabbing my pants professor.
Cobrinha: What's bothering you?
Me: The grip he has on my pants.
Cobrinha: Break the grip off. Then you can submit him.
I was looking for some trick, a way to bypass the problem. He said take the time to address the leakage, plug it up, then go back to your original course of action. If it's not bothering you, then ignore it and go for it.
What can I control? What's actionable? If it's not actionable, don't waste your time worrying about it. You need to conserve mental stamina. Decision fatigue is real (it's why it's easy to eat a healthy breakfast but hard to eat a healthy dinner), and if you waste all your decision powers over things you can't control, or things that won't matter or generally waste your time, then you won't have anything left by the time you get to the real decisions.
There is no procrastination, you're deciding not to decide and that still drains you and drains time.
It won't be easy, you have to fight for it
Paragon BJJ. I told a higher belt named Adam I was having a hard time with a move. He asked why, I said my opponent wouldn't let me do it.
He said, "of course he wouldn't let you. It's a fucking fight. You have to fight for it."
I thought I was missing something. And I was but it wasn't a technique, or a secret element, it was the willingness to take it. I wanted things to be easy because I was naturally good at martial arts. I've gotten beat numerous times by people with inferior technique who were willing to fight me and save nothing for the trip back home.
The Vikings would land somewhere and burn their own boats, so they would be forced to win. I had a habit of always saving something for my trip back home. But unlike the training hall, in real life, we often only get one shot at something. Second chances matter but not nearly as much as the first chance.
In martial arts, when you're much better than your opponent, they'll give you openings you can exploit. That's efficiency in the evolutionary sense. Use all of our advantages and exploit the disadvantages of our opponents.
What happens when they're as equally skilled as us or better? Sometimes they won't give you anything, then you have to fight for it.
It's why people are so drawn to Fight Club. How do you really know yourself if you've never been in conflict? A fight is objective reality hitting you in the face, and asking you: "How will you react when you know things aren't going to be easy, that things can get scary and unpleasant?"
Beyond hacks, tricks, tips, coping methods, different ways to help you think about it, it's life.
Warriorship by nature is an elite calling.
It's going to be difficult and full of challenges, martial arts then acts as a guide. Jiu Jitsu is an art of efficiency, how else can a small man beat a big man? Practice, practice, perfect your technique, learn the proper tactics and strategies. Then after you've done all that, you have to fight like hell for it. In essence that's life, business or personal.
"My opponent is my teacher. My ego is my enemy."
— Renzo Gracie
Sam Yang from an early age has been obsessed with connecting the dots between martial arts and efficiency, health, mindset, business, science, and habits to improve optimal well-being. For more info, join his newsletter. You can also connect to All Out Effort on Facebook and Twitter.